Singing about freedom

When I was in high school, I sang in a large choral group led by a human dynamo that probably stood no more than five feet tall. Her passion for music was contagious. When we performed, we filed in and placed ourselves on tri-level risers, girls unaccustomed to balancing in (freshly polished) three-inch heels, boys perhaps a bit self-conscious about wearing long robes. We shifted and adjusted ourselves, cleared our throats, then turned our attention to the front where she stood waiting patiently, expectantly. We knew all about what she expected of us: our best. And even if they wouldn’t have admitted it, not a single soul wanted to disappoint her.

Once we got settled, the altos, second sopranos, sopranos, the bass, baritone and tenors, all of us quiet and watchful, she raised her hands and held them there until she could see that every one of us were truly ready. All those practices would not hold a candle to the real performance, and we knew it. Her eyes found each face, she smiled with encouragement, then finally, she nodded, moved her hands, and we sang. When we sang for her, we did so with earnest and deep belief in the message of the song. Sometimes tears escaped from my eyes and the eyes of my fellow choir members. We were many youngsters who lifted our voices as one to the last chord, when she dropped her hands.

Can I say, it was magical? There is so much about high school that I have no memory of, but to this day, I can still hear that sound. Feel that moment.

“You’ll Never Walk Alone,” of course, was special and goose-bump worthy, but one of her/our favorites was a song adapted directly from Emma Lazarus’s famous 1883 poem, The New Colossus, which is (still) inscribed on the pedestal of the Statue of Liberty.

When we sang, “Give me your tired, your poor, Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, The wretched refuse of your teeming shore. Send these, the homeless, tempest-tost to me, I lift my lamp beside the golden door!” We didn’t just sing it; we poured every ounce of ourselves and our belief in our country into those words.

Because, see, at that time, it hadn’t been too long since our fathers, and perhaps older brothers, had gone to war to defeat fascism. We had joined with the rest of the free world to save those masses who yearned to breathe free and we thought we knew how precious that freedom was. Our country knew sacrifice and bore it proudly. Part of that pride was allowing—rather inviting—those seeking refuge to come here, to join with us and build our nation. To bring new customs and beliefs with them, share them with us, and to learn from ours.

And they came.

And, I would argue, we are richer for it.

Maybe someday we’ll remember what we stand for.

Imagine . . .

From a great distance, there are no physical borders erected to cordon off one piece of land from another on this planet. For example, in this country when you’re driving from one state to another, there’s nothing but a welcoming sign to let you know you’ve crossed an imaginary line. Most of the time the landscape doesn’t even change all that much. I understand that it’s easier to ‘govern’ humans when we are herded and then counted in individual states, but what’s really baffling is how or why we ever began to view people on the other side of an imaginary line as enemies.

How we ended up at odds with certain folks is a mystery to me. Has it always been true? Were pre-historic men hard-wired to want to kill people who looked a little different than they did? If so, was it because those people had more than they did? More food, a better location? More women? Maybe. These are questions for people way smarter than I am. But what I have learned is that governing the planet—everywhere—is in the hands (mostly) of men or man’s ideas handed down.

Masculine thinking involves competition. I could guess and I will that it springs from a place of fear. Or greed. What if they are smarter/stronger/more successful than I am? I can’t let them see that I’m afraid of that; therefore, I’ll make a lot of noise, back it up with a force of fighters, and let’s just see who’s afraid then. And then I’ll take something that’s theirs, and I will have won. Somehow, they have to know who’s winner and who’s the loser. To be the best is the goal. To be on top. It seems to be ingrained in the masculine psyche.

Right from the start, women knew they needed just the opposite. They needed cooperation. They needed help if they were going to bear these helpless babies, feed them, keep them warm and safe, and guide them to maturity. Especially if they had another one before the first one was even walking. So, women formed cooperative groups. Maybe they didn’t even need to talk about it or to make up rules and regulations. Maybe they simply knew what was needed, and they got to it.

No woman at any time ever wanted to send her beautiful baby boy off to fight and die for a piece of land. Or any other material thing. And if the women on that other piece of land had been in charge, they wouldn’t have wanted to send their babies to die trying to keep that piece of land. They’d talk. It’s what we do best. They’d see if they could share resources. That’s called feminine thinking—cooperation vs. competition. If we ever get a chance to run things, we’ll probably try that. Some women don’t meet this standard, granted, but they aren’t the majority and hopefully their voices will be drowned out by the voices of reason.

Fast forward to today. (It’s my father’s would-be birthday. Happy birthday, Dad.)

The longer the earth spins, the more obvious it is (to some) that international cooperation is the only way we will survive. Pulling in and declaring our way is the only way, that our belief system is the only right one, that we are right and you are wrong, and that we’ll go it alone if you don’t agree with us may sound patriotic and noble. It may stir your blood and make your proud, but it’s foolish. We, as a species, are interdependent. We need each other, all of us. We need to cooperate, not compete.

Everyone has something we don’t have and we have something they don’t have. We could share rather than trying to protect what we have and keep it to ourselves. It wouldn’t work with people who don’t want to share, granted, but like I said, if women were in charge everywhere. . .  For example, if women were in charge in Russia, the war would be over tomorrow. What the heck do we want more land for, they would say. Russia is vast and a lot of us are poor. Why would we want to take on more poor people to feed who are also struggling? Nobody’s child had to die; we all know that. Putin doesn’t care.

That, and several other international crises have brought an awareness of the need for cooperation to the consciousness of some men. Migrants fleeing the war in Syria in 2015 showed how countries needed to cooperate to manage national borders. Then Covid showed that political boundaries mean nothing to pandemics. We’ve seen that we have to work together for the common good. At least some of us have.

I’m encouraged by the first ever trilateral summit between Japan and South Korea. Their history of endless conflict is at least being set aside so they can present a united front. Secretary Blinken said that our engagement “is part of our broader efforts to revitalize, to strengthen, to knit together our alliances and partnerships . . . to help realize a shared vision of an Indo-Pacific that is free and open . . .where problems are dealt with openly, where rules are reached transparently and applied fairly. . .” Sounds like cooperation to me. Maybe it will all fall apart and they’ll go back to hating each other again. That’s our history. But it’s news. It’s hopeful. It’s a step away from conflict and competition toward cooperation. And there wasn’t a word in it that pulled you into the Trump drama unfolding and dominating every single news outlet.